January 26, 2010

My son was inducted!

Tonight was the induction ceremony for Anthony's joining of the National Junior Honor Society. He came home with the info last week and told me he was supposed to dress up for the induction. So I said we could go shopping because the boy doesn't own pants or collared shirts. He said not to worry about it because he was going to wear his "nice" khaki shorts and his golf shirt. I see! I did convince him not to wear his "dress up" clothes to school so it looked like he went home and actually put something nice on!

Brian was out of town so he wasn't able to make it so I texted him with a play by play of the ceremony. It was the best school ceremony ever. Start to finish, 22 minutes! And if that wasn't gift enough they gave you cake! Perfect!

Anthony doesn't like a fuss made over him so he didn't understand what the big deal was. He was going on and on about it for days. I kept trying to explain why it was a big accomplishment but he didn't see it that way. Finally, today I said that if it wasn't a big deal then maybe I should take his present back. Well, what do you know? There was a change of heart! Anthony is much like his father when it comes to being recognized but he is much like his mother when it comes to presents! (He got a watch!)

Congratulations Anthony! We are all proud of the young man you are growing into. We love you!!


January 25, 2010

Accepting Fibromyalgia

I came across this article from Health.com about accepting fibromyalgia and moving past it. I have read a lot of articles on fibromyalgia and felt this one more accuratly describes the things we struggle with and have to overcome.

"Accepting Fibromyalgia and Moving Past It

The key to coping with fibromyalgia is accepting that the problem is chronic, learning how to minimize the pain, and finding the good things within a painful life. The reality is that the pain will not go away. The challenge is to learn how to lessen it and create a life beyond the pain.

'I used to be a type A personality," admits Kathleen Wisz, 68, from Woodridge, Ill. 'But for the last 10 years I have learned to live with fibromyalgia. I have learned to enjoy all the little things in life - my grandchildren, sewing for them and teaching them sewing. In fact, I've gotten so many good things out of it that it makes the pain doable.'

Many people with fibromyalgia find this extraordinarily difficult and depression is common; but others are able to finally tap into a kind of acceptance and look for life's pleasures where they can.

It's not easy. Waking up every morning exhausted (sleep disturbance is one common symptom) is simply debilitating. To then face a day of pain can affect your entire identity.

Lynne Matallana, co founder and president of the National Fibromyalgia Association, says 'You lose your self-confidence and you end up seeing yourself as a sick person. You see yourself as somebody who's suffering from something that's abnormal. And people with fibro tend to use the word 'normal' a lot: 'I just want to feel normal.'

In 1998 Carolyn Nuth, 65, of Baltimore, had no idea why she was experiencing so much pain all over her body. She thought it was arthritis, because her mother and grandmother had had it. But she finally went to her doctor in tears. 'I really was at a point where I didn't want a life like this,' says Nuth.

The diagnosis of fibromyalgia was something of a relief and steroid shots every few moths helped bring the pain to a manageable level. But her new reality was a life of pain. She had always been busy, handling stressful jobs without paying too much attention to minor aches and pains. Suddenly she felt like an invalid. Like many other sufferes, it was a struggle for her to realize she could still have a productive life.

'I learned that I'm strong and even though I have limitations, I can still put one foot in front of the other. But I'm just smarter about it,' says Nuth. 'I used to be able to garden almost all day. Now I have to spend an hour and that's it. If I push myself beyond my limit, I will pay for it. So I've learned to limit what I do'

Like many, Nuth also had to face the toll that the syndrome initially took on her marriage. 'Because people can't see pain, they don't understand it. To my husband I looked the same as I always looked,' says Nuth. 'When I couldn't clean and do all the things I usually did, he didn't understand at all; it took a long time before he came to understand.'

Matallana says that relationships of all types can be fundamentally changed by the illness, and not everyone in a patient's world can handle the new reality.

'I know I've had so many friends that just didn't ever see me again after I got sick. They just disappeared out of my life, and that still is something that breaks my heart.'

Phyllis Talarico's way of coping was to start a support group near her home in Yorba Linda, Ca. When she was first diagnosed in 1994, Talarico, 61, would walk around her home crying. The tipping point came one day when she realized that her adult son was no longer attending her Sunday macaroni dinners.

'I said, Why aren't you coming?' says Talarico. 'And he said, I can't watch you cry.' He couldn't face it. I realized what was happening: I was wallowing in my own self pity.'

Talarico pulled herself together and took a class about the illness through the Arthritis Foundation. She found herself in a room of 30 people who understood. She met two wonderful ladies who agreed to meeting monthly, and today those chats over coffee have evolved into a full fledged support group with 200 members.

For Talarico, who now works for the NFA as patient assistance coordinator, acceptance allowed her to move forward.

'We all have something that we're dealing with,' says Talarico. 'You have two choices: either you deal with what you are given, or you throw dirt over your face and say it's all over. I chose to deal with it. Life is too precious. It really is.'"

I have been thinking and praying a lot about my acceptance of fibromyalgia. God has been laying on my heart thankfulness. I am thankful I had my kids long before fibromyalgia. If I hadn't, I wouldn't have been able to be the mom that I wanted.

Brian and the boys have been great throughout this whole journey. They have been patient waiting for the laundry to get done. They have been patient eating pasta for dinner again because I just can't gather the energy to cook dinner. I am very blessed to have them and I am so thankful for them!

January 20, 2010

Yeah Anthony!

I got a text from Anthony after school before I left to pick him up. It said, "I got accepted into njhs!" I had posted earlier that he has gotten a 4.0 every trimester of his middle school career. Because he has been on the honor roll, he had to opportunity to apply to the National Junior Honor Society. He had to get recommendations from his teachers and had to include an essay along with his grades. He heard back yesterday and was accepted! This means he has monthly meetings and has to perform 5 hours of community service a trimester along with keeping his grades up and being in good behavioral standing with his teachers.

We are proud of him, with or without the honor roll, but it is nice to see him recognized for his hard work. We celebrated with a pizza from Abby's, his favorite!

January 14, 2010

Sickness

Parker has been home sick since Monday night. He got out of the bathtub and said his stomach had started hurting. Within 10 minutes he started throwing up. There is one thing I cannot deal with. Vomiting. It freaks me out, big time! I can deal with anything else that comes out of any other orifice, but not that! So, Brian deals with the vomiting and I deal with everything else. I am so thankful that Brian can deal with it or my kids would be on their own!

Back to Parker. He started throwing up, A LOT! That is when he said, "I'm never going to stop throwing up. I am going to die!" It is awful to feel that way! We got him settled into bed, hoping the worst was over. About a half hour later he threw up again. I walked into the room and Tyler was cowering in the corner of his bed with huge eyes. He said, "it's freaking me out!" I feel you, Tyler! I moved him downstairs to the couch.

Parker is doing better today. He has kept his Saltines down, so that is a good thing. It is so hard when they are sick. I just want to make them all better so they don't have to suffer. I love you, Parky!

January 12, 2010

Snowboarding

Anthony went snowboarding for the first time on Saturday. He will also be snowboarding every Saturday for the rest of January. He has a special package that gives you lift tickets for every Saturday in that particular month. He also gets lessons and rental equipment in the package. He has been wanting to do this for a long time. We told Anthony that snowboarding was going to be hard and he would spend his first day on his rear end. We wanted to prepare him so he wouldn't get frustrated the first day.

Brian went up with him, along with a family from our church. Brian called at noon and said Anthony had only fallen once! That boy will go to all sorts of lengths to prove his parents wrong! Those kids and their balance! He became more aggresive as the day wore on and his confidence grew so he fell more often because of it. He had a great time doing it though! He is looking forward to another Saturday on the slopes.

The afternoon turned interesting for him. Anthony was coming in to get hydrated before beginning his last few runs of the day. He checked his rented snowboard at the ski check place. As he was walking in a man bumped into him. Anthony thought this to be strange and looked down and saw that his claim ticket for his snowboard was missing. He ran and got Brian and they ran to ski check and his snowboard was gone! This all took place in the span of 3 minutes.

Brian talked with the manager and he said that this situation happens a lot. (Information that would have been useful at the beginning of the day!) The manager said that once the thieves realize it is a rental snowboard they would probably dump it in the parking lot. They would call us the next day to let us know if they hadn't found it. If they didn't find it, we would need to file a police report and possibly have to pay for a replacement board. Luckily, no such call has been made to us, so it looks like we are out of the woods on that one! Makes for a good story though.

I would include a picture of Anthony snowboarding but my husband didn't take any pictures!!!

January 8, 2010

Oh Snap!

So over winter break we kept seeing this commercial for Radio Shack. It was a guy (Biz Markie) with a camera singing, "oh snap, guess what I saw." Parker picked up on it and now has a new saying. When he died while playing a video game, it was "oh snap, I just died." "Oh snap, the dog wants in." "Oh snap, who's that?"

Most people think Parker is very serious. Out in public he is very quiet and rarely smiles. At home, he is so funny! He is just hilarious. It is impossible to translate how funny his "oh snaps" are in print here. You'll just have to believe me on that one. He had us all laughing hard.

This is just a little glimpse into a boy a lot of people don't get to see!

January 4, 2010

Sadness

My boys went back to school today. I miss them! It is so quiet here without them.