June 30, 2012


It is always nice to get encouragement from other parents. I got to experience that the other day. Anthony and Brian went to Seattle for a couple of days to watch Anthony's beloved Red Sox play the Mariners. So I decided to treat the twins to dinner and a movie rental or two. They decided on McDonalds. Really?  Parker and I went to fetch the food and the movies. Parker was walking in front of me so he opened the door and went in.

Sometimes I think chivalry is dead. I can't help that the world is changing on that front but in my house chivalry lives. I make sure of it.

So, Parker walks in the door and doesn't hold it open for me. I stopped and just stood there inches away from the closed door, waiting. Waiting for Parker to realize I wasn't standing next to him anymore. He turned around and smiled at me, knowing exactly what he had forgoten to do. He came back over and opened the door for me. At the same time a woman comes running over to me, which kinda freaked me out at first. She told me that what I just did was awesome. She said she was from the south and if one of her brothers forgot his manners her mother would do the same thing. Parker just rolled his eyes. He didn't want to know there were more of us out there!

I will do all that I can to instill old fashioned manners in my boys. It is not always easy. A lot of the time they aren't thanked by those they help. It is discouraging at times but it is a good object lesson that we must do what is right no matter the actions of others. We can only control what we do and when the woman who gave birth to you is behind you, you open the door for her!

June 28, 2012


Brian mentioned the other day that he was going to get me a Kindle until he overheard a conversation I was having with some other people.  I said how very much I love the feel and smell of real live books and how you can't get that with a screen.  I would prefer to stick with the plain old book. 

Then we were at Costco and I, as always, had to browse the book section.  As I was looking at all the books I wanted I thought a Kindle might not be so bad as I am always looking for new places to store my many piles of books.  Perhaps I could exchange the feel of a book for space.

At church on Sunday, a friend came over to me to return a book I had lent to his wife.  The book was "Unbroken" and its awesomeness cannot be put into words.  After she read it, he read it.  Then it was passed to his parents and then the grandparents.  This is the power of a good book.  It's not meant for just one person.  It should be shared and passed around.  You can't do that with a Kindle!

June 27, 2012

Wednesday Word

For summer, our women's ministry is doing something we call Wednesday Walks and Wednesday Word.  We alternate our weeks with walking and being in God's Word.  On our walking weeks we walk around the beautiful paths of the Woodhaven neighborhood.  For God's Word, we are doing a Priscilla Shirer Bible study called Seeds. 

Tonight at the Bible study our first topic was about feeling forgotten or unappreciated.  One of the questions was, what do you do when you feel forgotten.  I brought up a poem I read when I am feeling unappreciated.  It helps me to shift my focus back to why I do what I do.  Yes, I realize the irony of my last post about hating poetry and my mentioning I read a poem to be encouraged.  I am full of contradictions!  Anyhow, I wanted to share it.

Continue On by Roy Lessin

A woman once fretted over the usefulness of her life.
She feared she was wasting her potential being a devoted wife and mother.
She wondered if the time and energy she invested in her husband and children would make a difference.

At times she got discouraged because so much of what she did seemed to go unnoticed and unappreciated.  "Is it worth it?" she often wondered.  "Is there something better that I could be doing with my time?"

It was during one of these moments of questioning that she heard the still small voice of her heavenly Father speak to her heart.  "You are a wife and mother because that is what I have called you to be.  Much of what you do is hidden from the public eye.  But I notice.  Most of what you give is done without renumeration.  But I am your reward. 

Your husband cannot be the man I have called him to be without your support.  Your influence upon him is greater than you think and more powerful than you know.  I bless him through your service and honor him through your love.  Your children are precious to Me.  Even more precious than they are to you.  I have entrusted them to your care to raise for Me.  What you invest in them is an offereing to Me. 

You may never be in the public spotlight.  But your obedience is a bright light before Me. 
Continue On. 
 Remember you are My servant.  Do all to please Me."

June 25, 2012

Monday Morning

Our summer series is "Your Word" out of Psalm 119.  I am super excited because I love the book of Psalms.  I often forget that a lot of the chapters are peoms.  I'm not a super huge fan of peotry.  I would prefer you just straight out tell me something instead of finding a fancy super confusing way of saying it.  Brian says you lose a lot of the poetry in translation, so for me at least...yeah for translation!!

The passage we studied yesterday was Psalm 119:1-16.  The 5 principles that were gleaned from there were:
1. Seek God with your whole heart.
2. Keep God's Word on your mind.
3. Declare and teach God's desires.
4. Keep your eye on the ball.
5. Delight in what God wants for you.

One of those struck a chord with me.  #2...Keep God's Word on your mind.  Very recently, a colleague my company worked closely with, committed suicide.  As I was talking with my boss, she was having a hard time understanding how this could happen.  I shared with her my experience.  I shared how satan would take truths and twist them into lies.  When you don't have God's Word   
in your heart and in your mind those lies will become your truths. 

Your mind isn't the place you want to settle for the gist of it.  You need the full force of God's Word in there.  It can be a very vulnerable part of us.

I am looking forward to the rest of the series.  Hope you can join us!

June 24, 2012

Happy Anniversary?

This year our anniversary landed on a Sunday.  Anyone married to a pastor or is a pastor's kid knows Sunday is the worst of all days to celebrate something, so I knew this anniversary wasn't going to be one for the books.  At least not for the book of awesome celebrations. 

The Thursday night before our anniversary, I got sick.  Maybe Tyler shared his jar of contaminated air with me but I got the fever, aches, stomach...the whole nine yards.  I had to call in sick to work on Friday, which I hated to do. No work = no pay!   Saturday I spent in bed.  Sunday was much of the same.  I knew I was super dehydrated and knew I would feel better if I drank something.  My brain said "drink the water" but my stomach said "don't even think about picking up that bottle!"  Happy Anniversary!

Brian is really good about doing things on the fly for work stuff.  He is a pro at handling all sorts of problems that come up and most of the time no one will ever notice.  But throw a wrench in personal situations and he chokes.  Let me give you an example.  The night he proposed things didn't go the way he had planned or anticipated.  Out of frustration he just handed me the bag my ring was in and said those words every girl wants to hear, "there's something in the bag for you."  I know, I said yes so I brought this on myself.  (I did hand the ring back to him and told him to do it right before I actually said yes.)

Anyhow, my point is this, 17 years of marriage and he didn't get me anything.  17 years and he still hasn't figured out that a token of appreciation is important to me.  At the very least, I was sick, some flowers might have been nice.  He defended himself by saying he was going to take me out to the coast for dinner and then let me go to the outlets.  LET me?  My gift was permission to shop?  I wasn't aware I needed permission.  Sigh!

Brian has done some pretty awesome anniversaries.  Sadly, this wasn't one of them, which was unfortunate as I have really been struggling with feeling appreciated.  Bad timing seems to be our thing!

June 23, 2012

Where have you been?

I just noticed that my last post was May 16th!  Really?  My days just seem to tumble one into the other and before I know it it is 2 months later.  Sickness, health, sickness, anniversary, sickness, flying, sickness, end of school, and sickness.  Sense a theme? 

Tyler has been sick a lot lately and it always seems to come about on Sunday nights.  Parker thinks Tyler has a jar of contaminated air that he breathes on Sundays to bring on the fever.  Because of this jar of contaminated fever air, Tyler missed his last week of school.  He did, however, go on the last day to clean out his locker and turn in some projects.  It has been a rough couple of months for my Tyler Dean! 

 It has been rough for the whole Burman family.  It has been a extremely discouraging 2 months.  I've been praying that this summer brings us some encouragement and that we will get some rest and peace.